17 February 2014
Wedding Planning Basics
Now that you have decided to get married, you will have plenty of decisions to make leading up to the big day. Obviously if you set the date for 12 month's time you should have an easier time than someone getting married in six months, though sometimes a longer time scale means that things get put off till later. Here are a few points for you to consider.
1) The Date. Everything else depends on this. The final date you settle on may be dependant on your chosen venue being available, with the most popular getting booked up well in advance. Alternatively you settle on a date and then see where can accommodate you.
2) Where. Do you want a church wedding or a civil ceremony? Home or abroad? Beach or country? A long guest list or just family and friends?
3) Cost. Are you paying for it all yourselves or will you be getting some financial help? Do you need a huge production to make it a special day?
4) Guest list. This may well be influenced by the cost, unless you are very lucky. There will be some people that you will have to invite and more that you would like to be there, though you are likely to disappoint some people. How much do you want to spend?
5) The Dress. Do you want the full wedding dress or is a simpler style more "you". Perhaps you would prefer a dress that you can use again, though not for your next wedding. This is another decision that will be affected by cost, though a church wedding without a traditional wedding dress might not look quite right.
6) The Vows. This is the whole point of the wedding, so give it plenty of thought. If you need some help you will find numerous versions on-line which you could tweak to suit yourselves.
7) Wedding Photos. This will be one of your main expenses, but is also one of the few things from the day that you will be looking at in twenty years time, along with the groom, all being well. See if any of your friends can recommend a photographer, and also go and see some and look at their work. The best ones will get booked up well in advance so don't leave this till the last minute.
8) The Reception. These days there are a variety of options as well as the traditional sit-down meal, so don't limit yourselves.
9) The Honeymoon. You may have been living with your new husband for a couple of years, but this will still be special, and even more special if you haven't. This is something else that you may need to start planning early on, depending on where you are thinking of going.
You could take away some of the stress by hiring a wedding planner, but with forward planning everything should come together on the day.